If you are looking for general advice about living with and parenting your children through two significant periods of change and development, then you might want to take a look at these books. I found them relevant, practical and very readable. They are also very humourous, which I think is a very necessary survival tool when it comes to life with children.
Toddlers and Young Children
Toddler Taming: A Parent’s Guide to the First Four Years by Dr Christopher Green
Teenagers
Now I know why Tigers eat their Young by Dr Peter Marshall
Get out of my Life….but first take me and Alex into town by Tony Wolf and Suzanne Franks